Friday, September 12, 2008

moving on.... slowly.

breaking up is hard to do... and splitting the dishes is as well.
I have found a place to live for the winter, one I can afford on my own, which is a miracle. Anything that is big enough for me and the boys is crazy expensive. So here is to finding a place in the fall that I can swing as a single mom. Actually, there is a subsidized house that is really pretty nice, but it is a months long process. So, we will wait and see.
So we are finally embarking on the real end of days.
I would like to say Ian and I are on speaking terms, but just now I think there is too much hurt and anger on both sides. But we are both decent people and I think that in the end, that will prevail. At least I hope so.
Getting ready for a punk concert for the youth centre tonight so best be off.
Love to all...
S

8 comments:

Dale said...

It most certainly is hard to do, Steph. You both really are decent (and more) people and I hope things settle down for all concerned soon.
I am still hoping the same for my situation. I didn't have to worry about splitting the dishes, though.
Did you get the place you mentioned to me? If so, I like your landlords.

Have fun punking out tonight! I know those kids will keep you hopping.

It's a mosh pit out there!

xx

Vallypee said...

Oh yes Stevie, breaking up is always tough, even on the toughest. It gets us in all our most vulnerable places, but your collective decency will win the day in the end.

Keep smiling dear, and keep the spirits needed for smiling! Hope the punking was good xx

Unknown said...

Hey Stevie.

I'm really glad you've found a place. That will be a huge relief for you and the boys - and for Ian. It should be easier (not to say that any of this is easy) to move forward for all concerned once you're not living under the same roof.

On the brighter side, splitting up the dishes is easy...just be glad you don't have to split up that album collection ;]

On a happier note, it sounds like the Youth Center is keeping you hopping! Hope you had lots of fun punking out tonight!

Love and hugs,
Rache

Anne-Marie said...

Hi Stevie,
Change is never easy, and yes, a lot of hurt is always involved with loss. When my first marriage broke up, I likened it to having him die, except that if he had really died, his family and friends would not have taken sides and stopped talking to me.

I wish you all well as you move forward in your lives- it's not easy.

xx
AM

Lannio said...

It sure is! Good luck at it all. It'll only get better as time passes and you cross the difficult hurdles (like splitting up the dishes). One step at a time.

Lesley
xx

MargieCM said...

Stevie, this is a positive step forward, and one which will go a long way towards that process of learning to communicate again without the pain and anger. These things can't be rushed though - you probably do need to allow yourself to feel those emotions in order to work through them and come out the other side healthy and strong. I hope you and the boys settle happily.

As for the dishes - if we ever split up I think Colin would be delighted about one thing at least - that he would finally be rid of the piles of old crockery and assorted dining and cooking paraphernalia that I have accumulated over the years. Don't give him any ideas please!

Hope the punk night was brilliant.

Dale said...
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Dale said...

Lee played drums for, the opening band, "Infected", on Friday night.
He really is quite brilliant on that drum kit of his!



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